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Nonviolent Communication consists of a value system that we are trying to live by, and then it outlines a language, thinking, communication and means of influence that support that way of living.
— Marshall Rosenberg

The purpose of Nonviolent Communication (aka Compassionate Communication)

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  • to support connections that empower compassionate giving and receiving

  • To create governmental and corporate structures that support compassionate giving and receiving

Nonviolent Compassionate Communication explained

Nonviolent Communication uses communication skills that support compassionate relating with others and which support using power with others to work together to meet the needs of all concerned.  Compassion is the motivation for action rather than fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion, threat or justification for punishment.  Compassionate Communication is NOT about getting people to do what we want. It is about creating a quality of connection that gets everyone’s needs met through compassionate giving.

The process of nonviolent communication encourages us to focus on what we and others are observing separate from our interpretations and judgments, to connect our thoughts and feelings to underlying human needs/values (e.g. protection, support, love), and to be clear about what we would like towards meeting those needs. These skills give the ability to translate from a language of criticism, blame, and demand into a language of human needs -- a language of life that consciously connects us to the universal qualities alive in us that sustain and enrich our well being, and focuses our attention on what actions we could take to manifest these qualities.

Who will benefit from learning and practicing Compassionate Communication Skills?

  • Couples struggling with communication and/or wanting to increase intimacy
  • Parents wanting more peace and less conflict
  • Educators wanting to improve learning of their students and connection in the classroom
  • Managers wanting to improve employee performance, productivity and teamwork
  • Employees wanting to be respected and heard by their employers, managers and co-workers
  • Anyone who wants to be of service to others
  • Anyone wanting to increase sales performance and customer satisfaction
  • Anyone wanting to be heard, respected and understood by others.

As you can see - Compassionate Communication touches all areas of our lives.  Learning to communicate with compassion bring peace into your life and allows you to show up with courage, truth and clarity.

As we work together you will be presented with skills which can support you when faced with conflict and language which disconnects such as diagnoses, criticisms, condemnations and blaming.  You will learn to express yourself honestly without attacking. This can help minimize the likelihood of receiving defensive reactions from others.  This practice is designed to give you insight into critical and hostile messages without taking them personally, giving in, losing self-esteem, or giving away your personal power.  Compassionate Communication will support you in all relationships including your relationships at work, at home and at play.  Especially important, Compassionate Communication will support you in your own internal dialogues, giving you greater understanding and compassion for what drives you.

Start practicing nonviolent Communication Today.


In person sessions are offered in Kings Beach, CA at The Sanctuary.  

Remote sessions are offered via phone, Skype or Zoom from the comfort of your own home.


practice with a group.  

Come to our the North Tahoe "Speak Peace" Nonviolent Communication Practice Circle every first and third Wednesday of the month.